Saturday, December 31, 2011

Wedding Guests

By Kelly Maguire


Making a list of wedding guests can be a pretty daunting task. The reason why it's quite tough is that your guest list is one of the most important things you need to do first before planning the other details of your wedding. The number of your guests has a huge effect towards the venue, food and invitations you need to prepare for your big day. If you're the type who has heaps of friends, it is inevitable to limit the number of people who can come to your wedding. To help you with this dilemma, here are some tips you may want to read:

Categories of Wedding Guests

Immediate Family Extended Family High School Friends College/Grad School Friends Childhood Friends Co-Workers Activity Friends- these are the ones you usually play or do activities with aside from your friends Children of all of the above (maybe)

Decision Making

Below are some common ways or styles that can help you decide whom to invite. Each style comes with its advantages and disadvantages.

Only invite people you have seen in the last year

Pros:

It greatly reduces the number of your wedding guests

It keeps you from inviting those who have a bug chance of not being able to go to your wedding

Cons:

Some of your good friends living out of town or abroad that you haven't seen in a while may actually fly or back home to go to your wedding.

Rather than choosing guests who are important to you, it may turn out that you are choosing guests for the sake of convenience

Give the bride, groom and parents an equal number of spots for their guests.

Pros:

It makes things equal and fair for the couple and the stakeholders.

It makes the parents feel respected and thankful for being given a chance to also invite those whom they would like to go to the wedding.

Con:

One may have more friends than the other. While one person gets extra spots for any person of his/her own choice to fill in, be it a close friend or not, the other person suffers having to not invite those he/she dearly likes just because there is no more spot available.

Would you invite that person to your home for dinner?

Pros:

This is a really good way for you to decide whether you are just inviting someone to fill in an empty space and make you wedding look festive or whether this person is truly important.

It makes you realise that your wedding is a very important part of your life and that the people you invite are the ones whom you really want to share that experience with.

Cons:

There may be some good friends who are not the type who would come over to your house for dinner. Despite that, they still remain important to your life.

Your parents may want to invite some of their friends to your wedding.




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